’Tis the Season: A Guide to Surviving the Mental Load

Give Yourself a Break Managing the Mental Load During the Holiday Season

Tips to Manage the Increased Mental Load During the Holidays

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We at VoiceAngel know that the holiday season is a magical time of year, but let’s face it, it can also be as stressful as getting dressed in a hurry and realizing you’ve put on two different shoes. Ah, the mental load—the invisible labor that falls on women’s shoulders, making them feel like they’re carrying the weight of the world (or at least the weight of the perfect holiday feast) on their delicate shoulders. Ladies, it’s time to lighten the load and bring some peace back into your relationship.

The Mental Load Showdown: Holiday Edition

Imagine the mental load of planning the entire holiday season as a fashionista trying to coordinate the perfect outfit for a New Year’s Eve party. From worrying about the budget for gifts to keeping track of all the holiday invitations, it’s enough to make your head spin faster than a top model on the runway. And that’s not even mentioning the pressure moms face to give their families the “best” holiday experience ever. It’s like finding the perfect shade of lipstick for your daughter, only to realize she wanted a completely different shade. The struggle is real! But wait, there’s more—seasonal depression is lurking in the background, ready to pounce like a fashion critic with a snarky comment. And let’s not forget, women are four times more likely to be diagnosed with seasonal affective disorder than men. Talk about putting a strain on your holiday spirit.

Now, if this sounds all too familiar and has turned your relationship runway into a chaotic fashion show, fear not! We’ve got some expert tips to help you take control of the mental load and keep the peace this season.

How to Keep the Load from Ruining Your Relationship

Tip 1: Have a Fashionably Honest Conversation

Partnership is all about teamwork, just like wearing matching clothes with your best friend. So, if the mental load is making you feel like a fashion disaster, it’s time for a heart-to-heart with your partner. It’s like asking your bestie for advice on which shoes to wear with your fabulous new dress. Open up, explain what the mental load means to you, and discuss how you can tackle the holiday season together, like a fashion power couple.

Tip 2: Map Out Your Holiday Plan, Darling

Now that you and your partner have joined forces, it’s time to map out your holiday adventure. Imagine it as carefully styling an outfit for a fashion show. Together, schedule a time to sit down and plan everything: from your budget to who’s on your gift list. And don’t forget to coordinate your schedules to avoid any awkward wardrobe malfunctions. Of course, you may have some conflicting fashion preferences, but that’s normal. Make a list of what’s important to each of you, ensuring you at least make an effort to accommodate each other’s top two priorities. It’s like rocking a trend you’re not sure about, just to make your partner smile.

Tip 3: Set Boundaries and Manage Expectations with Style

Fashion is all about expression, but it’s also about knowing your limits and setting boundaries. As you work through your plans, make sure to manage expectations—for yourself and everyone else involved. Remember, Cinderella didn’t need a glass slipper to find happiness, and you don’t need to conquer all holiday tasks to survive. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, let go of certain expectations, like sending out the perfect holiday card or attending every social event. Decline gracefully and prioritize your well-being. After all, this is a time to celebrate, not a time to stress over flawless hairstyles and impeccable table settings.

The Runway Success: A Sparkling Holiday Season

If the mental load is dimming the twinkle in your eye or causing friction in your relationship, it’s time to take charge. Don’t be afraid to ask for support from your partner, just as you would ask for fashion advice. Treat yourself with kindness, cut yourself some slack, and remember that the holiday season is about love, joy, and fabulous fashion choices—not about getting tangled in the never-ending chore list. Embrace the imperfections, laugh at the mishaps, and rock that holiday season like a runway diva. With a little humor, a touch of love, and a sprinkle of fashion sense, you’ll not only conquer the mental load but also have a holiday season worth strutting your stuff for.

Now go on, beauties, and enjoy the season with flair! Remember, fashion is a form of expression, and so is revamping your relationship. Share your fashion-forward approach to tackling the mental load in the comments below. We can’t wait to see your style!